Protocol
How to write to me, and what I expect
Everything below exists for one reason: what is settled beforehand no longer has to be discussed during. A session runs better the less is left hanging in it.
- 01
The letter
Write once, properly, and not from a throwaway alias. Give your age, your real experience, what you are looking for, what you refuse, and your availability across three weeks. A vague line receives silence; an honest letter receives an answer, even when the answer is no.
- 02
Screening
I screen everyone I receive. References from a colleague or a reputable house, or failing that an identity document shown over video — never sent, never kept. I record the date and the method, nothing else. This is not suspicion: it is what allows me to receive you alone and to go far.
- 03
The agreement
Upper and lower limits, duration, place, tribute, safeword. Written, read back by you, confirmed. The document is short and it governs: beyond what it contains, nothing applies without a fresh agreement and twenty-four hours of reflection.
- 04
The deposit
Thirty per cent on booking, the balance in cash in an unsealed envelope on arrival, before we begin. The deposit is forfeit on cancellation inside forty-eight hours, and transfers once when you give notice beyond it.
- 05
On the day
On time, clean, free of alcohol and of any substance. Phone off before you come in. No flowers, no surprise gift — a present is asked for first. One does not linger afterwards.
What never costs anything
Five free gestures, at any hour
They are not bought, not earned, and never carry a consequence. Anyone who lets you believe otherwise is not a professional.
- Asking for help
- Reporting pain that is the wrong pain
- Saying it is too much
- Naming an essential need — water, air, a chair
- Using your safeword
Where I receive
In residence, and travelling
I receive in a private, equipped space. I travel a few times a year, on requests formed well in advance, expenses covered. Cities and dates are announced to those I have already received before they are announced anywhere else.
Cities and dates — to be completed